In several posts I have mentioned alpha submissives and I’ve been asked to explain what an alpha submissive is; at least to me.
For many years I’ve been fascinated by wolves (even longer than I’ve been actively involved in D/s) and they generally fall into three different categories: 1) alpha, 2) beta, and 3) omega. So for better or worse, I seem to have pretty much always viewed submissives in the same way…alpha, beta, and omega.I am going to attempt to explain better what I mean by alpha submissive.
My friend, @lovemysub has written about alpha submissives as well and I encourage you to read his thoughts about alpha submissives. Not only about alpha submissives, but power exchange relationships in general. His is one of the best, well spoken, insightful, intelligent, advice blogs I’ve seen on Tumblr and I’m happy that he is a friend.Let me state first of all: These are simply my thoughts. Not an end-all, be-all definition of alpha submissives.
To begin, I’ll state that, to me, an alpha submissive is the apex submissive. Generally they are smart, very strong, confident, and carry themselves with an easy assurance.
I have found that an alpha submissive can go deeper into submission (the emotional and mental aspects especially) than any other submissive that I’ve encountered
They are generally in a leadership role in their job or work alone. They don’t need to have their hands held so to speak.
With an alpha submissive, he/she, doesn’t so much need you to guide them; they are perfectly capable of doing for themselves. With an alpha submissive, however, they yearn to find one who is worthy of leading them; one who they can willingly surrender control to; one who can quieten their mind. And because they are inherently submissive, they are fulfilled when they find one worthy to submit to…just like a true dominant is fulfilled when they find one who willingly submits.
Many times, those who only look at the surface will think that alpha submissives aren’t submissive at all; and to most of the world, they aren’t. When they find one who they deem worthy to submit to, however, they are an awesome sight to behold…and even more awesome to experience.
In closing I will say this: if an alpha submissive submits to you, you’re a fortunate individual. An alpha will only submit to one who is worthy.
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While I love this description, I am confused by the term “alpha submissive”. What would a beta submissive be?
Maybe I’m recoiling at the idea that one type of submissive is inherently superior to another, in the use of the word “alpha”. I don’t know.
But most of the description above – where it talks about the actual submissive parts – seems to describe every submissive to me.
I’m always a little bothered by the ‘alpha’ designation when trying to make a psychological conclusion because it doesn’t even apply to wolves.
Further research has shown that the concept of alpha males among wolves only existed when wolves from different packs were thrown together into the same cage. In the wild, wolf packs are familial and show a more family dynamic.
The term also ended up wrapped up in a lot of assumptions about gender roles. Thinking about how different personality types approach dominance and submission is interesting, but ‘alpha’ probably carries too much baggage and a different classification might be more suitable.
Yeah, OP is precisely as full of shit as you’d expect someone who self-describes as a “natural alpha dominant” to be.
I mean, are there subs who take on leadership or other high-responsibility roles in their daily lives? Absolutely, I’ve known quite a few. Does that make them inherently superior to other subs, “apex” subs to use the OP’s bullshit terminology? Absolutely not, and suggesting so is a massive red flag because it implies that people in positions of authority are inherently superior to people not in authority, which in turn implies that doms are inherently superior to subs. Anybody who thinks THAT has no business being a dom.