Like, I’m sorry, but purring “do you want it?” into your partner’s ear before you fuck is hot.
Looking into your partner’s eyes and asking “may I?” in a voice breathy with desire before you kiss them is super hot.
and “Do you want me to pin you up against this wall and fuck you till you’re screaming my name?” is just basically dirty talk.
What the actual fuck is wrong with you? If asking for consent ruins sex you’re what? A rapist who sucks at talking dirty?
Is that a demographic whose fun we care about ruining?