Bunch of messages…
OK, I’m going to go over this one more time and I’m going to type very slowly.
This blog caters to two large kink spectra. One of them is about the fantasy of total control/total surrender, which I’ve had brewing in the back of my mind since I was a pre-teen.
One of them is the reality of erotic hypnosis, which has taken up more and more of my thought space since I stater learning.
There is a certain amount of overlap of those two spectra, and erotic hypnosis can be used to achieve experiences in the short term like the fantasy of total control. There are a number of people reading this blog who have experienced some degree of total submission fantasy under my oversight and control.
In some cases, where I knew it to be part of their interests, I added suggestions which would make it feel like part of a permanent surrender. In others I didn’t.
Here’s the thing.
Those folks and I discussed this stuff, beforehand and afterward (afterward being very important). There was consent and agreement.
I’m a feminist. I’m just a kinky one. AS a feminist, I advocate the rights of everyone to live their lives, personally and professionally, however they want; to not have their career prospects damaged by gender, to have the chance to care for their children without being mocked by society, whatever…
…and to get their rocks off whichever way they want.
If a woman wants to play around wit5h submission, she can without ceasing to be feminist. If a man wants to play around with dominance, he can without ceasing to be feminist.
If they go in the other direction, that’s fine too. And this world is wide enough that you’ll find people who want to complement your kink.
If you look.
If you’re friendly.
If you’re understanding.
If you don’t imagine they owe you anything.
And if you remember that, all kink play that disagrees aside, truly? When it matters?
We’re all equals.