A comment from a Follower on a post the other day about “domineering” vs. “dominant” men. I think this is spot on.
“The first time you are sick and can’t “please” them is a dead give away. Does he take his responsibility to take care of you seriously? Or does he disappear? Placing your submission at someone’s feet means you have given yourself over to their care. The good days, the bad days, the cute hair and dress or pj pants and heating pad. It has always been a red flag for me when any Dom refuses to take care of the non sexual stuff.“